PERINATAL LOSS RESOURCES
Perinatal loss can happen to anyone and you are not alone. All losses are profound and all parents need support during this time. It is common to have a wide range of emotions. This page is here to provide information, resources, and support. If you need help navigating all of this and finding your next steps please call or text our Warm Line at 1-888-404-7763. There are many resources available to you and we will help you find the support you need.
The Warm Line offers peer & professional support. Call or text today.
1-888-404-7763
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You are not alone. Relief can begin with a simple phone call.
Loss Peers
Jessy Trevizo, Peer Support Specialist Supporting Perinatal Loss Families
Jessy Trevizo (she/her/ella), Peer Support Specialist Supporting Perinatal Loss Families
Jessy Trevizo is a queer Mexican and African-American full-spectrum holistic doula, herbalist, and yoga teacher.
She comes to this work with lived experience, deep commitment, and humility.
Her own journey with perinatal loss has shaped the way she understands grief not as something to “move through,” but as something to be held with care, compassion, and respect. That experience guides her in creating spaces where parents feel seen, honored, and supported in their unique process.
She has primarily served African American families and Latinx Spanish-speaking families, supporting them prenatally, during labor and birth, postpartum, and through experiences of perinatal loss as well as abortion. Her 6 years of experience as a doula has equipped her with experience in offering emotional, physical, and culturally matched care rooted in trust, respect, community and traditions.
She brings a holistic approach to her work, integrating her background in herbalism, yoga, and somatic practices. Through mindfulness, breath work, and body-based awareness, she gently supports parents in reconnecting with themselves and navigating their experiences and grief in ways that feel grounded, safe, and embodied.
Supporting parents through loss is not just something she does, it is part of her calling to support birthing people through ALL birth experiences.
She is deeply committed to walking alongside families in their grief, holding space for their stories, and honoring the love that exists in every loss.
jessy.trevizo (at) perinatalsupport (dot) org
Amy Menjivar, Peer Support Specialist Supporting Loss and Latinx families
Amy Menjivar (she/her), Peer Support Specialist
Amy is a Latina and mother of two children and PMAD’s survivor and Bilingual Spanish speaker. She has a passion to provide strong contributions to our society, with awareness of the use of stigmatizing language around mental illness. She has a background in Early Childhood Education and has worked with children for the past 9 years. She has supported King County Families and children of all ethnicities with special needs. She has worked mostly with Latin families as their family support specialist.
Amy is passionate about helping the community, engaging families and building community. She is committed to help immigrants in the community and teach families that there is someone here to listen to them and also to receive help.
Partners
End-of-Life & Bereavement Support Rooted in Compassion, Culture, and Care. We offer guided, non-clinical support that honors legacy, choice, and the many ways people experience loss.
The role of our peers is to provide compassionate support as families navigate their healing journey. This can include helping re-establish routines and self-
care practices, connecting families with helpful resources, and simply being a listening ear during difficult moments.
We're not here to “empower you” we're here to see the “power in you"
We offer:
- One-on-one peer support
- Our services are free and the timeline of care is determined by the participant
and provider - Providing wellness education
- Drawing on our personal experience to support families
Ongoing Loss Support Groups:
SEATTLE Parent Support Group, In person at Seattle Children’s Hospital in the Anna Clise Board Room – RB 3.614. 7:30 p.m. Third Wednesday. Contact Casey at Casey.Raker@gmail.com.
VIRTUAL Parent Support Group, Virtual via Zoom click HERE to join. 7:30 p.m. Second Monday. Contact: Liz at lizzylove1@aol.com.
As part of our new acquisition of the nonprofit Parent Support of Puget Sound, which focuses exclusively on miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss, we are presenting their peer support groups and resources. Please read the welcome packet information linked below:
Upcoming Perinatal Loss Support Groups & Events
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Feelings You May Be Experiencing
Shock and Denial…
The first reaction, a kind of numbness, allows us to get through the immediate crisis. You may feel overwhelmed by the many decisions you have to make, such as: arrangements for the body, whether or not to have a service, burial or cremation, and notifying friends and relatives.
Anger…
This is a normal reaction. It may be directed at yourself, your spouse, the doctor or other medical personnel. People’s comments may make you angry, or lonely because there is no one to turn to who really understands. People may avoid you or say inappropriate things. What they say may hurt.
Guilt…
Feeling guilty, or experiencing the “what ifs” and the “whys” is a part of the grief reaction too. Partly grief occurs because we all believe somewhat in our own power—that we are in control of what happens in our lives. If we are in charge, then it must be something we did or did not do that caused the baby’s death. Thus we feel responsible, and therefore guilty. To get rid of this feeling, we have to accept that there are some things over which we have no power. Very often there simply is no answer to the “why.” There is no where to place the blame.
Acceptance…
As the intensity of the shock, denial, anger, and guilt subside, we begin to accept the reality of the death. This is a painful step, but the beginning of healing.
Sadness…
Sadness will probably be most intense for four to eight weeks following the birth, but the grieving period may extend nine months to a year, sometimes longer. The sadness never truly ends but becomes bearable. The intense sadness may “pop up” unexpectedly and bring tears and bewilderment for many years. This surprises many parents who expect a final end to grief.
Grief is a complex process, unique to each individual. Do not expect yourself or others to be at a certain stage at a certain time. Different reactions to the loss of the baby between partners normal. If this is not realized, it can lead to misunderstanding. It may be that one of you is in one stage of the grief process and your partner is in another. Open sharing of feelings will lead to better understanding. There may also be different reactions among grandparents or others close to you and your family as well.
Children can also experience the loss in a stillbirth, miscarriage or death of a new baby, and have many of the same reactions as adults and for similar periods of time. If you have other children who are experiencing difficulty in expressing their feelings (children often feel very guilty), it may help to discuss it with a sensitive pediatrician, family doctor, nurse, or therapist.
Frequently there are physical symptoms of the grief you are experiencing. Aches, pains, numbness, insomnia, or fatigue are common reactions of your body to your loss. Anxiety about your health, your other children, or your partner may be expressed as extreme protectiveness or as reluctance to care for them.
We offer peer support from others who have experienced deep grief and wish to be of help to you now, or in the future. We encourage you to attend one of our support groups or contact the Warm Line to get started on your healing journey. Please call 1-888-404-7763 today.
